If you relate to the above, you’re not alone. Anxiety, low self-esteem and defeating patterns in the context of relationships affect many of us. Despite how common it is to experience this, it can be so hard to make sense of why we feel this way and why our relationships don’t work out. In most instances, we end up blaming ourselves, labeling ourselves “too needy,” “too much” or “too broken.”
What if I told you that you are not too needy, too much or too broken, but simply human? Human beings need others. Period. Wanting to be close to, loved by and support by others is as natural and healthy as the urge to breath air. There is no such thing as wanting this “too much.” In fact, when we find that we don’t have the love and care in our lives that we need, we suffer. Therapy can help turn this suffering around and create a sense of renewed connection to yourself and others.
Through emotion-based therapy, I help you get to the root of the ongoing harmful patterns you experience in relationships. In our sessions, we look at what you’ve learned about relationships, and how past experiences in relationships may be contributing to your difficulties in the present. We explore the (often painful) emotions and sense of aloneness that are at the core of your struggles, and help you process and make sense of them in a new way. Ultimately, we use the relationship between the two of us to help you gain trust in yourself, find new ways of relating in relationships and receive the love and care you need to thrive.
I have advanced training in both Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Both of these forms of therapy focus on emotions, relationships, and emotions-in-relationship. They are based in attachment-theory, which essentially says we do the things we do in relationships for reasons that makes sense based on our personal and family histories. I believe in this whole-heartedly and make it a point to never shame or judge my clients (since I know we are all doing the best we can at any given time). I also believe in being with my clients in their experience and their pain, and share my experience with them openly and authentically. If you want a therapist who will be in it with you from start to finish (and isn’t afraid to roll up her sleeves), then we might just be a fit.