Every couple goes through difficult periods in their relationship. This can happen during times of transition – the first year of marriage, the birth of a new baby, moving to a new place, changing careers, a death in the family – or it may seem to come out of nowhere. Regardless of timing, it is common for couples to feel a sense of “stuckness” at some point. When couples get stuck, they struggle to communicate with one another without getting into a fight and feeling deeply hurt. There is often a strong sense of disconnection and loneliness happening in the relationship. In most instances, both members of the couple feel unheard, unappreciated and unloved.
Couples counseling can help you and your partner find your way back to one another. In my work with couples, I use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy—an evidence-based form of couples counseling with proven, lasting results. Research has demonstrated that 70-75% of couples who enter Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy distressed leave with a recovered sense of connection, and approximately 90% experience significant improvements. Over the course of therapy, I help couples identify the negative cycle that leaves them feeling stuck, understand one another’s emotions, change the way they relate to each other, and find their way back to connection. You can read more about Emotionally Focused Therapy here.
I have advanced training in both Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Both of these forms of therapy focus on emotions, relationships, and emotions-in-relationship. They are based in attachment-theory, which essentially says we do the things we do in relationships for reasons that makes sense based on our personal and family histories. I believe in this whole-heartedly and make it a point to never shame or judge my clients (since I know we are all doing the best we can at any given time). I also believe in being with my clients in their experience and their pain, and share my experience with them openly and authentically. If you want a therapist who will be in it with you from start to finish (and isn’t afraid to roll up her sleeves), then we might just be a fit.