What is therapy like?
Therapy provides a place for you to encounter yourself (and in the case of couples’ therapy, your relationship). The idea of “encountering” may sound a little wishy-washy; once you experience it, however, I anticipate that you’ll feel differently.
You see, in our day to day lives, we rarely press pause long enough to explore what’s happening for us on an emotional level, whether it be in the context of our relationships, our job, or the direction of our life as a whole. Therapy is that pause button. It is an invitation (however scary) for us to encounter what’s happening within ourselves and our relationships.
It requires a certain amount of bravery and dedication to come to therapy, a willingness to be open to learning about ourselves and the dynamics at play in our relationships. This learning process can be painful. It forces us to acknowledge and look at things we’d rather not. We often have to feel the feelings we’ve avoided, and say the things that are hardest to say – whether it be to ourselves or to our partners.
In case this is all sounding terrible, let me say now: the hard parts of therapy are most often the catalyst for the outcomes we desire. In other words, by making room for those painful feelings and vulnerabilities to come to the surface, we make room for new possibilities of feeling and being. We make room for a new way to relate to ourselves and in our relationship. In other words, we make room for the change we’re seeking, and allow it to take root.
How long does therapy take?
The length of therapy is highly dependent on the individual or couple in question. Generally, Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples lasts anywhere from 8 to 20 sessions, depending on the presenting issues. AEDP individual therapy varies in length, depending on the client’s goals and presenting issues. In both cases, we will work together to set goals, and periodically assess our progress towards them over the course of therapy.
What happens during the first appointment?
Prior to our first session, I will send over paperwork for you to complete. We will spend a portion of our first session reviewing and signing this paperwork. We will also cover policies and procedures related to our work together. We will spend the remainder of our first session clarifying your presenting issues, as well as your goals for treatment.
Why choose me as your therapist?
I am a therapist that believes we heal primarily through fully experiencing, acknowledging and expressing feelings. If you have noticed that you have certain blocks around experiencing or expressing emotion, or are in a negative cycle in your relationship where neither of you is on the same page emotionally, leading to chronic hurt and misunderstanding, then you’ve come to the right person. The training I have in both Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) make me qualified to use emotion as a primary method of healing. I do not take my responsibility as a therapist lightly; I am dedicated to my clients and the work I do, and believe fully in my approach. If this resonates with you and you are committed to making changes in your life and your relationship, I would love to work together.